You Should Be Ashamed Of Yourself! (A 2012 Manifesto To The “Real World”)

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We must also think at a higher level to solve prob­lems created at this thought level.

Since the time I was able to really think for myself — a time when one can start to distin­guish what one thinks is a better option — I have fought tooth and nail against most of my parents’, well… parenting. Actually, most control-based insti­tu­tions, including school and church. The hypocrisy, fear-based, illog­ical, stick-and-carrot, scarcity, guilt-based disci­pli­nary and day-to-day raising style never made any sense to me, and thus as a naive child would do, I tried to fight the power of its injustice.

It’s this time that it became obvious (in retro­spect appar­ently) that resisting and butting heads against what I didn’t want wasn’t working… yet the fire deep inside of me to fight for what I believed in never burned brighter.

Don’t get me wrong, I did learn a lot of posi­tive things growing up as well and am grateful for all my parents did doing the best that they could. This is anything but being unap­pre­cia­tive. While there were many-a-thing that reluc­tantly did make sense (that I under­stood parents are oblig­ated to do) that I just simply didn’t like at the time, there are still to this day (and forever I assume), funda­mental prin­ci­ples that I strongly disagreed with.

What drove me to compose this… mani­festo of sorts — is a phrase that came up tonight when my little brother acci­den­tally hit my sister on the head with a wooden sword. That’s a scene right there. After the drama and crying ended, my parents proceeded to tell my already gut-wrenching remorseful brother that he “should be ashamed of himself”.

Now I’ve heard this here and there my whole life, and until this moment never real­ized how messed up that phrase really is. I get the point and logic of saying such a thing, sure — but after learning about how people deal with nega­tive emotions while working with myself and clients in real life circum­stances, this approach is just not healthy on so many levels. You can not ever improve a nega­tive state by intro­ducing an even worse state — that’s insanity, really.

Being totally honest with you and myself, my emotions got ahold of me upon hearing this, and I began thinking to myself: “Yeah, that’ll work… guilt some­body into being a better person. Let’s make you feel even worse about your­self so much, that you’ll fear such a nega­tive feeling and somehow think about how you want to avoid that bad feeling again before misbe­having forever in the future. Oh, you just did some­thing wrong? Watch out! If you do some­thing even worse, you just might regret it and hate your­self the rest of your life.”

Wow. Are you kidding me? This what’s believed to be the best way to teach a child?

This justice-karma-based, duality, fear-installing mindset and approach to “disci­pline” has to end.

The Reason The “Real World” Sucks

Growing up in a “semi-quasi catholic” house­hold where you do things in order to not get punished out of fear and guilt, rather then simply being true to who you are and acting out of love — I can tell you first hand that this approach is dated, inef­fi­cient, and agoniz­ingly miser­able in the long run, and based upon a flawed premise to begin with.

Say hello the the tactic employed by many-a-religions in the classic “be good and obey man’s laws and go to God’s heaven if you’re chosen” or “disobey man’s laws and go to hell because you’re not worthy”. Implying that this world is only worth obeying and passing (like a test) to get to the real happy place (because you can’t find it here), and that if you don’t conform, you are doomed to eternal suffering and misery. Such fear-based control methods are simi­larly used by parents and govern­ments around the world.

I don’t believe I rebelled and fought against this growing up simply because I was naive, disre­spectful, or somehow else flawed. I think the reason I despised such an approach to my parent’s parenting, was because it goes against the funda­mental reasons of exis­tence: the freedom to seek happi­ness for the purpose of growth for all mankind.

Children are closer to who their true selves than a 30 year old adult because they don’t have years of cultured limiting beliefs and unre­solved nega­tive emotions clouding up their view. To better under­stand this, imagine a wind­shield that’s never been washed after driving 100,000 miles on the highway, splat­tered with dirt and all sorts of bug guts. How easy are you going to be able to navi­gate the road? Or life?

This is how most people func­tion and observe their world after decades of living by default.

Infants’ inherent active desire levels to feel good, be free, and to grow, start near 100% as they are born — compared to the much lower desire levels most “trained”, indoc­tri­nated, jaded, and emotion­ally, phys­i­cally, spir­i­tu­ally, and mentally neutered adults that have “factual expe­ri­ence” in the “real world” possess.

It’s incred­ibly saddening to me that so many adults lose hope and congru­ence with their true-selves in the face of “reality”. It’s even more sad when those fears are passed down to chil­dren in order to “prepare” them for the harsh reality of the “real world”. Why do we feel the need to project our own fears and self-limitations unto our chil­dren in order to protect them from the “reality” of the “real world”.

Well here’s a reality check for you: your “real world” sucks.

It’s not working. It’s inef­fi­cient. People are miser­able. Your world is host to lies, greed, hate, wars, and millions of psycho-pharmaceutically-drugged-up, fast-food-fed, passion­less, unaware zombies. Your world states that we are born into bondage, and in order to survive, we must give our lives up to the machine with only the friv­o­lous hope and rare glimpses of thriving in the 9–5. Your world encour­ages confor­mity and sepa­ra­tion, rather than the worth of every indi­vidual in an inter-conneted whole­ness. Your world attempts to suppress people that think ahead of their times, but every once in a while somehow let genius slip through and change the world.

You try and control others in order to make your­self feel good or safe out of fear, and the inability to find happi­ness inside your­self. You want others to change and conform to your opin­ions because you’re unwilling to expand your own views and try on poten­tially better possi­bil­i­ties, simply because it’s not comfort­able. You carry the torch of an aging para­digm you sought to rebel against as a kid, but succumbed to it’s reas­sur­ance of how the “real world” works upon the constant barrage of nega­tive and limiting beliefs of good-willed (albeit misguided) elders and peers that somehow “knew better”.

Who Am I To Dare Say?

This is not the tantrum of an enti­tled, uned­u­cated, consumer-driven brat, whining that the world doesn’t cater to him. In fact, this is the decla­ra­tion of denounce­ment of the reign of a flawed world in which scarcity and fear drive actions and thought. This is a the state­ment of a human so inline with his know­ing­ness of the inherent well­ness that flows to all thing on this plant, that his pres­ence alone can’t help but disrupt all flawed estab­lish­ments of the old world.

I could be wrong about all of this, sure. But in my voli­tional expe­ri­ence as one seeking higher wisdom, enlight­en­ment, worldly travel, happi­ness, fulfill­ment, growth, freedom, love, better­ment, and anything else that drives a polyman — I have found that regard­less of the lack of so-called “real­ness” or “peer-reviewed, double-blind studies” of such opti­mistic views, they have improved the lives of every single person that chose to adopt and live along these principles.

Isn’t that what really matters, that lives are genuinely improved?

Have you ever wondered why your “real world” expe­ri­ences such discord and disso­nance when some­body like me shows up? Why everyone seems to attack and cling onto all the reasons why what I say works, is wrong? Twisted reasons backed up by all the evidence that they need to convince them­selves that everyone else should be just as miser­able and dead inside like them­selves? Why the comfort of the constant lack of fulfill­ment, feels more safe than facing the world and demanding that they deserve to be happy, and are willing to do what­ever it takes to live and abun­dantly joyous life?

The answer is simple: it’s because the well­ness, freedom, love, happi­ness, and truth that I’m very much in align­ment with is so much more powerful and closer to what’s in your heart than what you’re currently expe­ri­encing and believing. It stirs your soul up to a point where the resis­tance and nega­tivity you feel and express against it, is actu­ally caused by the inner real­iza­tion that what you’re living isn’t what the essence of your soul knows you should be living.

It’s this disso­nance between where you are now and where the poten­tial of who you’ve become is, that causes such upheaval against the self empow­er­ment and well­ness that emanates from people that are living their life congruent with the real them.

Your reality, your “real world”, has done a magnif­i­cent job convincing the majority of adults that life is meant to be hard, dangerous, and that those who are happy or living in abun­dant are somehow wrong or unjustly lucky. That life isn’t fair. That shit happens, money doesn’t grow on trees, there’s too many people and not enough stuff, and that given the chance people would hurt you.

This “real world” — this view of how “life just is” - can not be any further from the truth.

The “Real World” Is Flawed, But Has Been Necessary

The reason why things aren’t working is because that view of the world is flawed at its heart. If it wasn’t flawed, the world would have figured it out a long time ago, and would decide to work with it rather than keep resisting millennia after millennia. At its very core, those beliefs about the world go against the very essence of life, and thus every rebirth of a new gener­a­tion brings with it the know­ing­ness of well­being and solu­tions to the previous gener­a­tions prob­lems. The rebel­lion against your “real world” won’t ever end because it is not what humanity wants… and if you know anything about humans, we tend to get what we want.

I do not hate, nor do I wish your world didn’t exist; for I love your world because of what it has shown me. Everything that I don’t want in my future, as well as the promise for improve­ment, was born from that contrast between the world in which I desire to create and your “real world”. All the suffer­ings and apparent “wrongs” committed in your reality, have been required in order to inspire us all towards an ever-expanding better future — for those whom chose to see and attract it.

There is no wrong or right way, there just is. Everything has happened for the growth and evolu­tion of our conscious­ness and species… and since that is a fact, and all growth and expan­sion is good, all events that catalyzed such learn­ings have a valid purpose and can not be condemned or even desired to be different. The past thou­sands of years of attempt… after attempt… after attempt… after attempt to mold younger and lesser gener­a­tions, have been unsuc­cessful (and shall remain unsuc­cessful). Yet, they have been neces­sary to bring such an aware­ness of it’s inef­fi­ciency and flaws to the mind of mankind.

We cannot become better and focus on a solu­tion, until we are of course, aware of the problem. Likewise, we can not find the solu­tion while remaining focused on the problem either. The solu­tion is always on a higher level of thought than the problem that created it. So again, we need to stop fighting and resisting the prob­lems we don’t want, and start allowing and searching for the solu­tions we do want.

It’s Time To Move On

Your world is ending. It’s happening now.

Just look around and tell me how that view’s working out for you in the “real world”?

Maybe it’s only apparent to me… looking through my own lenses and filters into a dying world and dogma that’s on the brink of great change and awak­ening. Maybe it’s me who has become so powerful, that my own personal reality is changing before my eyes, and is causing ripples of change throughout the universe. Maybe it’s you, reading this now, resonating with such emotion who’s playing your own part in creating both yours and my reality.

The truth is, I believe, that we all create our own world. Our thoughts, believes, expe­ri­ences, opin­ions, and emotions liter­ally form our view of reality and all exist simul­ta­ne­ously and coop­er­a­tively. We can choose to hold on to these failing systems of corrup­tion, greed, fear, and decep­tion and continue down the path of suffering so preva­lent throughout history — or we can choose to see our world as a place where well­ness, abun­dance, and happi­ness is a right to all beings, at all times, regard­less of them allowing it at that moment.

Whatever option we choose, it’s that one which will become our own reality.

How do you know if you should keep at what you’re doing, or make the deci­sion now to decide your destiny? It’s quite simple to deter­mine actu­ally: if nega­tive emotions, suffering, disease, resis­tance, and unhap­pi­ness are preva­lent in your life — that’s a sign that…

It’s. Not. Working. HELLLLOOOOO. Wake up.

It truly baffles my mind how many people, including those who know about higher-level life concepts, choose to hold onto their ego and disem­pow­ering dogmas even if there’s a better option presented. What, do you really think that if you suffer long enough, that enough suffering will magi­cally turn into joy and happi­ness overnight just because? Einstein said insanity is doing the exact same thing over and over again, expecting a different result.

The “real world” is insane.

With that being said, it’s not mine, nor anybody else’s job to try and coerce or convince those of the the old para­digm that it’s not a sustain­able, empow­ering, abun­dant, or posi­tive reality to live compared to that of inherent well-being and abun­dance. That same “my way is better so I’m going to force you to chance” has been part of the problem, and iron­i­cally the cause for much more useless suffering.

It could be quite possible, that these folk are here to inspire those of us open and willing, to seek a better life for ourselves and others, evoking the desire to passion­ately improve ourselves and share those successes and expanded thoughts with those who also seek out empow­er­ment and bliss.

So my dear friend, do not get frus­trated with the old and those that so desper­ately hold onto all-they’ve-ever-known — as everyone has the right to see the world how they choose, and that inherent freedom is what this decla­ra­tion is all about. We are not here to fix a broken world, as this world is perfect the way it is in for its purpose. Rather, we are simply here to create a new world for ourselves in which we consciously choose happi­ness, well­being, and abun­dance inde­pen­dent of the leash of other’s realities.

It’s my hope that this mani­festo resonates with others in the world that believe in some­thing more. That believe in the inherent good of others and the well­being of this planet and all her inhab­i­tants. Those that feel an insa­tiable thirst for truth, happi­ness, and freedom from the depth of their soul that kicks and screams to hell in back when it’s told how the “real world” works, knowing that is not how life is meant to be lived.

Stop resisting the pessimism of the old, and start allowing more of the well­being and abun­dance that you deserve. You deserve this inalien­able right simply because of your exis­tence, without any need to prove your worthi­ness for it. We have the power to change our world, and it’s been proven time and time again, that all it takes is a single thought to send ripples throughout the universe.

The belief that we are insignif­i­cant and power­less in our impact, is the greatest lie we’ve ever been told.

On the 1^st day of January, in the year 2012AD, I make this decla­ra­tion to the Real World.

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