There’s a time to be cool and aloof; and then there’s a time to love women.
Don Juan: love him or loathe him, he’s history’s original lover and seducer of women. While many see Don Juan as a womanizer and victim of satyriasis, or the equivalent a modern day “player”, I was lucky enough to be introduced to the concept of a “Don Juan” in a much more positive light. The movie Don Juan DeMarco (starring Johnny Depp and Marlon Brando) portrays Don Juan as a true lover of all woman, and is what I use as my definition.
If you haven’t seen this movie yet, I strongly urge you to do so. While most men and woman see this as a popcorn romantic chick flick, I recommend putting those rose glasses aside and watching it as an educational movie. Don Juan is one of those we can model some very powerful beliefs from, so when you watch it, look for the beliefs and attitudes he has that cause him to act the way he does.
Now I know (I’ve been there) how a lot of guys feel about romance & love, and so does our pop culture; hell, it’s not even “manly” to talk about it. It’s kind of like this weird unspoken taboo, that a lot of guys just don’t talk about at any significant depth – probably because of this huge masculinity misnomer western society has. Even those that do, seem to be way OTT (over-the-top) nice guys that try wayyy too hard… like buying flowers and candy on the first date with a horse-drawn carriage with a girl he hasn’t met yet.
Not Don Juan; he gets it.
The concepts of romancing, seducing, and loving women will continually change and evolve on your quest of becoming a polyman, and these quotes and ideas may or may not jive with where you are – right now. But telling you this as a lover of woman, truly getting these ideas and beliefs at an enlightened and core level, will skyrocket your success with woman and life: separating you from the players and nice guys at a level they couldn’t comprehend.
These quotes resonate with me more and more as I continue my quest of genuinely loving women, and I hope they serve you as inspiration and a reminder as well.
- “There are only four questions of value in life, Don Octavio. What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same: only love.”
- “Have you never met a woman who inspires you to love? Until your every sense is filled with her? You inhale her. You taste her. You see your unborn children in her eyes and know that your heart has at last found a home.”
- “What do you know of great love? Have you ever loved a woman until milk leaked from her as though she had just given birth to love itself, and now must feed it or burst? Have you ever tasted a woman until she believed that she could be satisfied only by consuming the tongue that had devoured her? Have you ever loved a woman so completely that the sound of your voice in her ear could cause her body to shudder and explode with such intense pleasure that only weeping could bring her full release?”
- “I give women pleasure, if they desire, it is of course the greatest pleasure they will ever experience. No woman has ever left my arms unsatisfied.”
- “Every true lover knows that the moment of greatest satisfaction comes when ecstasy is long over and he beholds before him the flower which has blossomed beneath his touch.”
- “By seeing beyond what is visible to the eye. Now there are those, of course, who do not share my perceptions, it’s true. When I say that all my woman are dazzling beauties, they object. The nose of this one is too large; the hips of another, they are too wide; perhaps the breasts of a third, they are too small. But I see these women for how they truly are… glorious, radiant, spectacular, and perfect, because, I am not limited by my eyesight. Women react to me the way that they do, Don Octavio, because they sense that I search out the beauty that dwells within until it overwhelms everything else. And then they cannot avoid their desire, to release that beauty and envelope me in it.”
- “Every woman is a mystery to be solved.”
What I love about these quotes is not only the language and style used, but what kind of person he must be to think and say these kind of things. What beliefs, views, attitudes, values, experiences, etc must Don Juan have (and Johnny Depp emulate and act) in order to congruently communicate these ideas in a fashion that’s undeniable masculine and genuine.
If you plan on adopting this kind of mindset, you have to honestly believe these things with your entire essence congruently and powerfully – there is no “faking it until you make it” or deceiving possible. When this is just who you are, it doesn’t matter (as much) what you say, because who you are as a man will communicate it.
Let me rehash that this isn’t about being a hopeless romantic with your head in the clouds, fantasizing about some idealistic concept of love and women.
No, no – not at all.
Rather, these are quotes of inspiration and ideas/beliefs for you to keep in mind during your interactions and relationships with woman, and throughout life. It also helps with balancing out the mental & physical techniques & strategies one can get bogged down with in the dating world, and give the whole shebang some real emotion, passion, and meaning.
Even if “love” and “attraction” may be just some chemicals being released in our bodies as a result of prewired triggers to ensure the survival of our species… you’re not going to get many girls swooning over you talking like that. While highly beneficial to know all that kind of stuff, it’s hardly passionate or romantic. And anyways; it’s much more fun and rewarding to be the Don Juan, don’t you think?
Do you have any other quotes or good books/movies that portray the attitudes and beliefs of a Don Juan? If so, leave a comment now and let us know!
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Posted on April 17, 2010 at 1:45 pm.
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Posted on April 27, 2010 at 1:31 am.
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Posted on September 5, 2010 at 12:25 pm.
Hi Andrew!
OMG! I love love love that movie! I’ve seen it many times!
I own it on DVD! Amazing! And yes, Number 6 is my favorite quote — I quote it myself in my talks and poetry readings, especially as an intro or a sequel to my own poem “What is Love?”
Other movies I highly recommend are:
1. Vicky Cristina Barcelona (I just loved that guy’s no-bullshit approach — and also the way he acted with total love when Cristina said she wanted to break up from the Love Triangle — I had an amazing awakening experience after watching this movie for the first time in the theater that lasted for many hours for me)
2. About Adam — This was the inspiration for my poem “You Say You Want True Love. Bullshit!” I think anybody who has a serious interest in the topic of relationships should watch this movie.
3. 50 First Dates — I know! I know! Most people have already seen it and it seems a bit cheesy — but I like it for the way it portrays the concept of ‘re-framing’ in a really cool way — the poor girl was ‘cursed’ with a ‘disease’ — but because of the power of his love for her, and his creativity, and their love for each other — what was at first a curse became such a blessing — she gets to experience the delightful mystery of a first kiss every single day! How amazing is that! And he gets to BE Love in an ultimate sense — BE someone who loves her THAT MUCH! :) :) :)
I also highly recommend the song “Little Moments” by Brad Paisley, especially the following lines:
“And I can’t even remember now what she backed my truck into
But she covered her mouth and her face got red
And she just looked so darn cute
That I couldn’t even act like I was mad
Yeah I live for little moments like that”
Yup! Another example of how a loving heart re-frames a potentially tense situation so that even more Love can flow!
Thanks so much, Andrew, for making a whole BLOG out of one of my favorite movies so that even more people become aware of it — and a well-written blog too! Nice!
I believe in you and I celebrate you.
Much Love,
Kundan
Posted on December 2, 2010 at 9:24 pm.
Wow, awesome, thanks for the detailed reply Kundan! I haven’t seen those other movies you recommended, but I’ll have to check them out. Don Juan DeMarco is an amazing movie, I have it too — very inspiring, if nothing else.
I like the idea of reframing things like that. It’s no longer this or that annoying habit, but a beautiful trait of what makes her feminine …though sometimes they can just be a brat regardless ;)
Posted on December 6, 2010 at 11:05 pm.
Just watched this movie, and was definitely inspired. I’m looking to read more on being a better lover of women..
So far I’ve been reading “Secrets of sensual lovemaking by Tom Leonardi” and reading articles on Zan Perrions website who has a very Don Juan DeMarco Approach to women as well.
Can you recommend me any other sources of inspiration?
Posted on April 14, 2011 at 7:50 am.
“The Way of The Superior Man” is incredible as well. I highly recommend it.
Posted on June 21, 2011 at 3:38 pm.
wow! my friends recommended me this movie a long time ago. just finished watching it. it was really a very nice movie. nice content you got here.:)
Posted on July 4, 2011 at 12:15 am.
i really enjoyed what you wrote my friend. i feel the exact way about the movie and have the exact outlook on the beauty of women as don juan. his way with words. drew you are just like me as to what u have said here. know any good books or movies to improve ?
Posted on August 8, 2011 at 9:43 am.
If you dig this, check out David Deida’s work as well as a Zan Perrion’s. It’s personal development material for dating, relationships, and being a man. Very good, high level stuff. Zan has a very inspiring view on lovingly seducing women that’s beautiful and still masculine, and David’s “The Way of the Superior Man” is a cornerstone of masculine development.
Posted on September 10, 2011 at 8:32 am.
This is one of the unsung masterpieces of the film world. I love it with a passion, and watch it every year or so. I also try in my own small way to emulate his love of women.
To me, there is nothing better than a wonderful romantic connection, based on love, respect, passion, and play!
Posted on September 3, 2011 at 5:45 am.
I totally agree. Often people either get caught up in wild hardcore sex, or swept away in romance. I think a balance of both is required for a fulfilling romantic relationship, the blend of the strong vulnerable leading masculine. Cheers to you for promoting love and romance from a man’s side!
Posted on September 10, 2011 at 8:18 am.
Dear guys
Lovely forum and a wonderful topic which is so essential yet so neglected , i guess we all like thinking guys need to share more such good books, movies/ articles to love our women more completely what she truly deserve.……love to hear from all of you.….
Posted on September 11, 2011 at 1:13 am.
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Posted on January 12, 2012 at 10:07 am.
I absolutely agree! Maka wish man pud ta na isa ta sa 1,502 lovers ni Don Juan de Marco.
Posted on February 16, 2012 at 8:10 am.
If I had been aware of these 7 quotes very much earlier, I would not have hurt/disappoint/disillusion too many women in my life. I suppose it’s not too late to take a new approach (?)
Posted on March 23, 2012 at 9:48 pm.
It’s never too late my friend! I know a 70 year old man that started body building. I know couples getting together well over 50. It’s never too late to have the life you want, and a new approach to women and love, along with positive beliefs, is well within that. When both your happiness and well-being is priority, you will give each other incredible gifts, as the lover spoken here by Don Juan.
Posted on March 24, 2012 at 9:29 pm.
u lunatic asshole.
Posted on March 28, 2012 at 11:44 am.
great,
Posted on April 11, 2012 at 1:24 pm.